I suspected that a relative of mine was separated or divorced several months ago. Only very recently did I find out that she is in fact divorced. However, she's not the one who spilled the beans - her son did. She doesn't know that we know. And we're not even sure when this divorce happened. Quite frankly I'm not shocked. But what surprised me is that she didn't say anything, even when I and others in my family have visited her and chatted with her in person.
I know it's not happy news or anything like that, and I'm sure it's a tough thing to deal with, but is it something that you would hide? I just don't get it. What's the big deal? If you're divorced, you're divorced. It sucks, but it happens.
And it's not like she had some quickie marriage that was only 1 year or something like that. She was with the guy for 15 years if you count the 5 years before they got married. In my mind, they had a pretty good go at it. I always thought they weren't a good match, so I'm not surprised that they didn't last. They're both good people, but they just weren't meant to be in the long run, I guess.
I'm just wondering how long she's going to hide it from us? She's obviously not ready, but I'm not sure why. Does she think she'll get judged? I dunno - I didn't think we lived in the kind of society where it was some huge thing to be ashamed of or anything. It is what it is. Just so strange that she's tried to hide it. Hopefully she feels comfortable enough to get it out in the open soon, so that she can move on.
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